People get married for right and wrong reasons. Have you heard someone say “I love the way she speaks, I will like to marry her”; “I love her legs, they are straight, I will like to marry her”.; I love the way he dresses, I will like to marry him”.
The thing is, if you want your marriage to be successful, take the right decision at the onset. Get married for the right reasons. Below are the wrong reasons for getting married:
1. Because you want to have a sex partner
Some people get married because of sex. They don’t want to contact sexually transmitted diseases by having multiple partners. The truth is, that is not a good reason to get married. What if you get married and your partner does not like sex? What will you do? Patronize young girls around? Don’t get me wrong though, sex is one benefit of getting married, but it is not sufficient enough to make it the sole reason for marriage.
2. Because of self-pity
I have heard of cases where the man involved pitied the lady he was in a relationship with and married her. Of course, after the marriage, the self-pity will wear off and you will see the real person you marry. It is better to let such people go than to compound their problems and yours.
3. Because you need financial freedom
It will amaze you to know most ladies are looking for rich men to marry. Some ladies are not ready to settle down with any man that does not have at least a two-bedroom house, a car, and a fat bank account. They are not ready to start from the beginning. The truth is, wealth or possession, though necessary should not be the criteria for choosing a marriage partner. What will you do if the money is not there again? Leave the man and look for another rich man somewhere?
4. Because you love the idea of wearing a wedding gown
Brides on their wedding day are the cynosure of all eyes. Every single person wants to look at the wedding gown and imagine themselves in it. The idea just looks too beautiful. Marriage is not about the wedding day. It goes far beyond that. You will not wear the wedding gown for the rest of your life. It is only for the wedding day. After that, you will face life as it is.
5. Because you think you are getting older
Age! Age is the number one factor why people marry wrongly. They feel they are getting old and need to hurry before it is too late. The thing is, age should not be a determinant factor in deciding who to marry. The pressure can be high especially for ladies in their thirties. I know because I have been there. But hold on, don’t rush into marriage, calm down so you can make the right choice.
Right reasons to get married
Now you know the wrong reasons for getting married, let’s look at the right reasons to get married.
1. Because you are in love with your partner and you are ready to make commitments
Love and commitment should be the major reasons you want to get married. This is because love can wane out during the relationship, but commitment will keep you in the marriage. When you get married, you will be in the euphoria of the wedding and love. But later on, it will reduce. This is when you need to be committed to your partner and your marriage.
2. Because you want to share your life with your partner
It is a joy to share in the success and failure of a partner. You become part of their lives. You help them pray and plan to succeed in life. As you grow together and look back, you will laugh at your small beginnings and how you have helped each other to grow.
3. Because you want to have a lifetime companion
Loneliness is a bad thing and it can lead to mental health issues. You need someone who will love and care for you for the rest of your life. Someone that will be there for you whenever you need a shoulder to cry on. Someone that loves you for who you are.
4. Because you want to have and raise children
Raising a family is part of the reason for getting married. You will want to keep your family line alive.
Above are wrong and right reasons for marriage. Are you thinking of getting married? Why do you want to get married? Tell me in the comment section below.