That’s it. No calls. No text. No visit.
Another day is over without his usual calls to check up on you.
You raised the issue with him, but he gave you a load of excuses on why he has not been calling as usual.
In fact, you have been the one calling lately.
And you can’t help thinking…
Is he losing interest or just busy?
Will our relationship ever work out?
Deep down within you, you know you can’t carry on like this.
One way or another, something has to change
Hmmm! Sister, it is time to wake up.
There are telltale signs to watch out for when a man
Are you ready?
Let’s get started.
1. He is an apartment renter and not a home buyer
I know you are familiar with the real estate business where you live. Some people give out their house for rent. That means anyone who wants to rent a house can always pay for a specific time of stay. They can either renew their payment when it is due or find another apartment to rent.
Some men are like that. They are just looking for “ladies to rent”. They are not looking for a long-term relationship. They only want a lady who will be there to satisfy their needs for the meantime.
Other people who are financially buoyant can buy a house. Such people are not looking for houses to rent. They are looking for women to marry and not ‘rent’.
If your man falls into the first category i.e. the apartment renter, he will lose interest in you very fast because he is just renting your “space”. When he is done with you, he will move on to other available “spaces”.
So, it is easy for such a man to lose interest in a relationship with you.
The question is:
This one will sting, so get ready ladies!
Some men are achievers. They are gunning for the top of their profession. They are professionally certified or reading to get certified. They are running one course after the other either offline or online. Most men who are achievers always love their women to also tag along educationally or otherwise.
And you are there sitting down with your Bachelor’s degree. You have no drive to read more. You are satisfied with where you are. You have no plans to move forward in your professional career. You are done with education!.
If your guy is an over-achiever, watching you stay put in a place and refusing to leave your comfort zone won’t cut it. Perhaps, he has even advised you on several occasions to up your game, but you are just comfortable with whom you are and where you are.
Hmmm! This is a recipe for your man to lose interest in you quick.
3. The dude has his eyes on a new “hottie”
Remember the apartment rental I mentioned above, most of them don’t stop renting. They will go to other fine places to look for newly built modern houses to rent.
Some guys are like that too. They are constantly searching for slaying ladies in their office, entertainment places, school, etc. Whenever they get a new lady, they lose interest in you very fast.
The truth is, men are fired up with the thrill of a new chase. He will stay with you for as long as there is no other option in sight. But as soon as a new opportunity arrives, you become an old story.
4. You are not a “ride or die”
“A ride or die” means you are a liability and not an asset to your man. Your man will evaluate your value based on what you bring to the table. He will consider the value you are adding to his life and goals.
If instead of improving his life, you made it bitter; you are not adding value to his life.
If you are constantly nagging him or pressuring his life, thereby distorting his vision, you are not adding value to his life.
If he feels that you are not beneficial to his life and his dreams, he will pack his bags mentally and follow suit physically in no time.
5. He has eaten the forbidden fruit
Call it old school or something else, I still believe in no sex till after marriage.
When there is nothing to look forward to in a relationship, it is boring.
When instead of keeping yourself, you freely give yourself to your man for as many time and he wants, it will be boring. It is a matter of time, it will park up.
Sex does not make a man likes you more or want to marry you. It is a thing to treasure and keeps till the right time. It will be challenging, but rewarding. So, sex is one reason men lose interest in a relationship.
6. You did not cut the umbilical cord
It is good to be close to family members at all times. But sister, you need to watch if it is becoming too much.
You will need to sever the umbilical cord in time if you want your relationship to succeed.
If you still have an unhealthy bond with your family and you prefer to be with them most of the time than going out with your man, it is a recipe for failure.
I am not saying you shouldn’t relate with your family members, all I am saying is that you create time for your relationship. Your man needs your attention as much as your family does.
This can be the reason your man is losing interest in your relationship.
You turn him to your ATM
This is common. In fact, most ladies go into relationships because they need someone to take care of their financial needs.
Once a man comes into your life, you automatically become his responsibility. You want him to handle your daily upkeep, your pocket money, your recharge cards, your school fees, etc.
Once you ask for money, he should send it immediately with no delay. This is the reason you see many young and upwardly mobile men running away from dating relationships. They can’t cope because of incessant demands from ladies who have turned them into an ATM.
What to do when he loses interest in you?
Discovering that your man is no longer interested in a relationship with you sucks. It really does.
Particularly when there is no hope in sight.
But simple changes to your lifestyle and attitude can have dramatic effects on your relationship.
There are things you can control in all the points listed above.
Let’s start with that.
You could add more value to your life by getting more education and skills. Go back to school and read more.
Do you know one secret?
You can learn for FREE.
There are schools online that offer free education. There are platforms online such as Allison where you can learn for free.
Have you checked YouTube lately? There are billions of videos on “How-To’s” you can watch to learn.
When you learn more either online or offline, it will affect your income positively. You wouldn’t have to depend on your man for everything. This will also add value to your life. You won’t be a liability but an asset to your man.
Create time for your relationship and keep yourself for your future husband. It pays to live a chaste life.
Now, to those things, you can’t control, such as dating an apartment renter and having his eyes on new “hotties” in town. Get to know your man well before you agree to
Now is the time to get up and do the right thing.
I assure you, you will have a man who will always love and adore you.