When love is one-sided, it is not always the best. It is like you give a piece of your heart to someone who does not value it. When you love someone who does not love you back, it is a painful experience. Love is supposed to be mutual. You love me and I love you. Not one-sided.
It is obvious that there is no future for such a relationship. For a relationship to work, the two people involved have to love themselves unconditionally. If the love is not there, then it is a time bomb. The relationship will soon explode. So what do you do if you find yourself in such a situation?
Will you beg to be loved? Will you use your resources to attract your partner?
Love is not something you can control, I would have advised you to just switch it off in your heart. It is not an electrical switch. So how do you get over it? Below are five ways you can stop loving someone who doesn’t love you back.
1. Don’t stop loving them
It is difficult; I know. But trying to stop loving someone who does not love you will hurt even more. The heart is so complicated. Trying to stop loving is like trying to fight a battle you cannot win. So, if you can’t stop loving them, how do you solve the problem?. The first thing you do is to first know it is a temporary problem.
2. Know it is a temporary problem and it will pass
The joy of going through challenges in life is that it will be over someday. Troubles never last. So, is unrequited love. One day your heart will stop hurting. One day, you will be free from the hurt and pain you feel today. One day, you will come across someone who you love and who loves you back. It is a temporary problem, so handle it as such.
3. Don’t allow it to affect your self-esteem
Someone not loving you back does not mean that you are not worthy to be loved. The problem is with the person, not you. Celebrities and beautiful queens are dumped daily. So, it has nothing to do with you. Keep your self-esteem intact, because it will help you put the problem in proper perspective.
4. Do what you love
One way to heal quickly is by immersing yourself in what you love to do. Now is the time to exercise as you always wanted. Now is the time to go out and enjoy yourself. Now is the time to read books. Fill your heart with knowledge. If you love going out with friends, do it and enjoy a breath of fresh air.
5. Improve your life
Go for more education in your line of study. If you have a Bachelor’s degree, go for your Masters. There are several online education portals you can use to attain more education right in the comfort of your home. It will help you get rid of your pain and you will also add more knowledge to your life. It will enhance your life and career.
Above are the steps you need to take to stop loving someone who does not love you. So, you don’t have to hurt and feel sorry for yourself. Move on and achieve more. Forget about the past and hold up your head high, waiting for the prince charming or queen that will sweep you off your feet.