You held the card in your hands; it is another wedding card invitation from one of your friends.
As you looked at the card, questions popped up in your mind.
When will it be my turn? When will I send out my wedding invitation cards to friends?
It is not as if you don’t have a partner; you do. But the thought of making a commitment is daunting.
As you put down the invitation card, you sigh.
It feels like you can never commit to a relationship. You have a good partner you could consider, but you are worried they might not be the one.
You’re afraid of making a commitment to a wrong person. You are afraid of staying single for a long time. You worry you may not start a family at the right time. But if you don’t make a commitment, you might lose the love of your life to someone else.
You think the answer to having a good marriage is love and If you love your partner, everything will be all right.
The truth is, loving your partner is not the only thing there is to a good home. There are other things you need to consider before you commit to a relationship.
The reason you are running away from commitment is that you don’t know what to look for in a relationship.
In this article, I will show you five good ways to know when it is time for you to commit to a relationship.
Let’s get started.
1. When you love to sing and they love to dance
It is important to share similar dreams and passions with your partner. Sharing similar dreams and passions with your partner gives you a point of connection that can make your relationship last long.
You may not have the same dreams and passions, but at least there should be one or two things the two of you love to do. It can be similar passions for hobbies, songs, movies, books, etc. For instance, you may love to read historical books and your partner also love to read the same.
You need to be on the same or similar wavelength with your partner to make your relationship work.
There must be something you like they also like. If there is nothing both of you shared, it will be hard to live together. If you love singing and they love to dance, it makes a good combo.
2. When it is attraction all the way!
The first thing you need to think about when you are planning to commit to a relationship is the attraction. Are you attracted to your partner?
There should be a connection physically, spiritually and intellectually. If you are not on the same level, it should be close.
Let me ask you a question.
Can you picture a life with someone you are not physically attracted to? How are you going to manage it? It simply won’t work!
Attraction should be the first thing on your mind. Do you love her shape? Do you like his stature? You must admire their physical composition.
Your partner must be intellectually attracted to you. When I say that, I mean, they must be able to reason with the same or similar frequency as you.
For example, you are sending a text to someone and you forget the spelling of a word and you ask your partner to help and they are just looking at you like “what is this one saying”.
To create a balance here, if your partner is not intellectually sound, that does not mean they are not the one. You can invest in their education. Teach them how to learn from the internet. Teach them how to learn from YouTube by watching educational videos. Upgrade their knowledge so they can be on par with you.
The point is, make sure it is attraction all the way!
3. When you are gossip mates
Friendship is very important in a relationship. Friends are open to each other. Friends have nothing to hide from each other. Friends keep each other’s secret safe. Friends don’t hurt each other. Friends look out for the comfort of one another.
Is your partner your friend? Do you love to spend time in their company without thinking you are wasting your time?
Are they the first person you call in the morning and the last at night? Do you love to share your problems with them and seek their counsel when going through problems at work and in your personal life?
4. When you know what makes them thick
When you are ready to commit to a relationship, you must not know them in and out. All your questions must have been answered. You must know who they are, where they come from, their likes and dislikes, etc.
Are all your questions answered?
When you look at your relationship, do you feel you know all there is to know? There is nothing hidden anywhere? You ensure that you don’t have pending questions that need answers. Make sure they are all sorted out before you make a commitment.
Strange things happen every day. I am sure you don’t want to be surprised. Imagine you take your partner to a popular eatery in town and a man saw her there and goes “Is this not Jane? Jane that stole my money and disappeared into thin air?’ What an embarrassment that will be?
Know your partner in and out before you make a commitment.
5. When you have similar views on values and issues
As humans, we grew up in a different environment. This implies that we have different upbringing and different values. But naturally, a good family should bring up children with good values. Therefore, you need to ensure that your partner has good values.
Are they honest? Do they respect you as much as you respected them? Are they humble and not flamboyant? Do they have a lovely character?
Do you share the same or similar views on issues? It is not a must you must have the same opinion, it can be different, but not at all times. You are reasoning about A, your partner disagrees and takes you to Z. Your opinions and values about life should be similar.
Marriage is a huge commitment, but marriage to the right person makes you free to be the person you really are.
Imagine receiving another invitation card again, but this time you are happy you’ve found the right person and you are ready to commit to a relationship.
Instead of sighing and worrying about making a wrong choice of a marriage partner, you can look forward to a marital bliss with your loved one.
All because you know the things you should look for when you are thinking of committing to a relationship.
Sounds impossible? It’s not.
Look into your relationship through the eyes of the points raised above, and then, you will know whether you want to commit to a relationship. You won’t be confused anymore.
Now, you have the road map – all you need is to chart your course.
A mind-blowing marital bliss with your loved one awaits you.