You’ve heard of playing hard to get, right?
Here’s the scenario:
You are beautiful
Several men have asked for a date with you
But, you think you shouldn’t tell them ‘yes’ immediately
It’s not as if you are not interested in their proposal
You simply want them to ask and ask again before you say ‘yes’
So, you play hard to get to make them work for it.
You want to be chased. You are simply enjoying the game.
You know what?
It is time to stop that game.
The thing is, many ladies believe if you say yes to a man at the first instance, he may not value you. But if you say no and he continues to pester you until you say yes, it means he really loves you and he will value you.
How wrong they are.
That you said ‘yes’ to a man when he asks you out does not mean he will value you less or that you will look cheap in his eyes. Also, that you say ‘no’ to a man to make him pursue you more does not make you valuable or expensive in his eyes.
To balance this up, a healthy dose of playing hard to get may be necessary. At least once or twice. But don’t you overdo it!
Check out the frightening reasons below:
1. You will lose a potential partner
The thing is, a good man that likes you but respect boundaries will not pester you for long. He will talk to other women. It is not because he doesn’t like you, but because it is not right to always ask a lady out for months until she agrees to go out with you.
Men who don’t respect your boundaries will still continue to pester you. It’s not because they are in love with you, but because ‘no’ means nothing to them.
They don’t care about what you want; they are only concerned about what they want.
You agreeing to date after a few requests do not make you cheap. If you wait for a man to chase you for months before you think of giving him a chance, you are setting up yourself for failure.
I have friends who missed their potential partners because they were trying to play hard to get.
2. You will fall into wrong hands
People who only want what they can’t have don’t value what they get. For some of them, by the time they got you and they see your imperfections, they feel disappointed that they have wasted their precious time chasing an imperfect woman. Such men behave in an unacceptable manner.
They don’t value a relationship by how hard they worked to get it.
3. You will end up alone
Let me tell you one truth here. Women are everywhere searching for husbands. The thing is, good men are scarce. If you don’t want to stay alone for the rest of your life, you better stop playing hard to get. It is an express road to a life of loneliness.
4. Men will treat you like a thing to use
Playing hard to get is the same as treating yourself as a “thing to be acquired”. Men who do not have good values will also treat you like a thing to use. Your desires and thoughts mean nothing to them. This is the reason some women complained that men treat them like their property. It is the way you present yourself that you will be treated.
5. You will end of settling for less
After you have pursued all eligible bachelors away from you, you will have no option other than to make do with the few men who are coming around you. That
To balance this up, I am not saying you are to say ‘yes’ to every man that asks you for a date. But be wary of men who pursue you relentlessly. If you are not interested, tell them so, and let them look for other ladies who will be interested in their proposal.
Date men who have the personal qualities you like, who complement your personality and lifestyle, and who treat you well.
It’s your turn. Have you ever play the hard to get game before? Share with me in the comment section.