It is gradually sinking in.
She is not picking your calls nor replying to your texts
You’ve been trying to get in touch with her, but to no avail
You even begged her friend to help you speak to her
But all efforts are meeting a brick wall.
You keep wondering: Is she losing interest in me or just stressed?
You know you don’t steal, cheat or beat women
So, what can be responsible for it?
Hmmm! Take heart brother, it is obvious.
Sometimes in a relationship, one party loses interest in the other. You keep wondering what you’ve done to deserve it.
In this article, I will show you 7 shocking things that can do to make a lady lose interest in you.
Let’s get started.
1. You make her your emotional crutch
People have problems, I get it. What I don’t get is when a man tries to dump all his problems on his lady because he can’t handle them.
I am not saying you shouldn’t share your problems with her, after all, a problem shared is half-solved, but don’t dump your problems on her all the time.
Today, it is your boss at work, tomorrow it is one of your siblings, who know what it will be next week? You should be able to deal with some things on your own without running to her like a coward.
It can be tiring and it can make the lady lose interest in you very fast.
2. You are a gentle man and not a Gentleman
Do you know there is a difference between a gentle man and a Gentleman?
No.? Ok. I will tell you.
The words “gentle man” are two words. It means a man that is gentle. A gentle man is a man that doesn’t want to offend anyone. He is timid and acts cowardly. He does his things gently as if he is handling an egg. A gentle man is unsure of his actions.
On the other hand
Still don’t get it? Here are more.
- A gentleman will treat a woman well and not spoil her
- A gentleman will say what he wants to say and not what his woman wants to hear
- A gentleman is who he is and not who the woman wants him to
- A gentleman makes his woman feel special, he is not a submissive wimp to his woman.
Ladies love men who are in control. Men who don’t ask for the next step to take. I mean action takers.
So, being a gentle man and not a Gentleman will make a lady lose interest in you.
3. You stopped living your life and lives hers
You stopped living your life because you met a new girl. You shower her with love. You stopped going out with your friends and doing what you love to do. She became the center of your world and you became her pedestal.
You don’t do the hobbies that make you happy anymore. All you do is to follow her around. She tells you what to do and what not to do. And you think you can’t live without her. If you always do everything your woman says, you will never make her happy.
She will not only lose interest, but she will also introduce you to her new man.
It is a sure way to make a lady lose interest in you.
4. You are “a boy” who needs a woman and not “a man” who desires a woman
Do you know what it means to be a boy and a not a man?
A boy is needy. He has little respect for himself to the extent that he will do anything to make a woman happy. Of course, women love that. She will play along for a while and take advantage of you until she is tired and then she will lose interest and dump you.
A man who desires a woman is different. He is in control of himself and the relationship. He stirs the ship to the best place. He is in charge. He is strongly grounded, he knows what he wants and is incredibly decisive.
Who will not want such a man?
5. Making yourself a limited time offer
Do you know what it means when they say a product has a “limited time offer”? It means it is a quality product that will soon go out of circulation if you don’t buy it on time.
Some men are like that. They make themselves look expensive. If a lady refuses to go out with you, it’s her loss.
You flaunt your possession and wealth to intimidate her. You make her realize that it is one of you in the entire world and if she misses you, her world will not be the same.
It is a sure way to make a lady lose interest in you.
6. You rest on your laurels
You had to chase her to get her to date you. But eventually, after she gives in, you stop the chase. You forgot what you went through to get the girl of your dream.
You stopped doing the kinds of stuff that make relationship fun and exciting. You stopped making efforts in the relationship.
When you do that, it makes a lady lose interest in you since you can no longer deliver. It gets boring if there is no more chasing.
7. You are like a boat floating unguided over the waves
In those days, it is common to see children with paper boats by a small stream. They throw the boat into the water and watch it move. The wave of the water will start carrying the boat up and down.
That is how a man that lacks direction behaves.
Ladies will not like you.
If you don’t have a life ambition, it means you are an NFA (no future ambition). You have no passion for what you want to do or be in life.
You just allow the current of life to carry you to wherever the wind is blowing, your woman will not be with you for long. It is a sure way to make a lady lose interest in you.
Women love ambitious men. Men who make effort to succeed in life. It is a sign of a good future, you know.
The 7 things mentioned above can make a lady lose interest in you.
I am sure the thought of your lady losing interest in you makes you cringe.
So, what can be done to prevent your lady from losing interest in you?
Be a man and handle your issues. Don’t depend on her for your emotional sustenance. If you can’t handle them, seek help.
Be a Gentleman that lives his life, takes her along and creates a space for both of you to grow.
Be in charge! Be in control! Be active and independent of her. Live your own life and take her along for the ride of her life! Do not live by everything she says but instead live by your own rules.
Don’t brag! Don’t boast! Just be who you are. She will love you for it.
Don’t stop the chase. Give her the things she doesn’t even know she wants! Take her to places she never knew exists.
Don’t lose a gem while playing with stones