Love is the foundation of a relationship. It is the bedrock upon which every strong relationship is built. Without love, there is no future for any relationship. Love makes two people come together to adore and care for each other. It makes you see the good in humans. As good as it is, love is not enough for a relationship to survive.
I grew up with the myth that love is all you need. When two people love each other, they can weather anything together. Good as it may sound and true also, it is not the total truth.
Look at it like this:
A relationship starts with love. You love yourselves to bits and can’t wait to spend time with one another. But along the line, issues will show up. You will notice each other’s characters and flaws. You will want to blend with each other. During this time, there will be frictions. There will be things you don’t like about each other. Things that love alone cannot overlook.
Take, for instance, you are a man in love with a lady that has good manners. She knows how to take care of you. But the only problem is she lies a lot. You love her very much. Each time, you ask her one thing; she tells you another. In this scenario, can your love solve the problem?. No. it can’t.
So, if love is not enough for a relationship to survive, what can you add to it?
There are three more ingredients you can add to love to make it sufficient for your relationship to survive. They are – Compromise, Commitment, and Sacrifice (CCS).
There is no one born of a woman that is sufficient of himself or herself. You are not perfect. No one is 100% perfect. You are good looking; you have good manners; you are rich, handsome/beautiful, intelligent, etc. You must be an angel. Maybe such people exist, but honestly, I have seen no one like that though.
So, if no one is perfect, that means love is not enough. You must be able to bear with each other’s faults. For instance, if you are in a relationship with a woman that nags. Always avoid whatever makes her nag. If you can’t do that, simply cut out. Love is all about compromises. You must be able to bear the flaws of the person you claim to love. That is love. Love overlooks fault. Learn to bear with another. It is called compromise.
The second ingredient you need to add to love is commitment. To make your relationship survive, add commitment. Commitment is being resolute that come what may, your relationship must work. It is a very important element in a relationship because times will come when you will want to throw in the towel. Issues will arise that will want to make you change your mind about loving your partner. You will want to opt out. But commitment is what will make you stay with your partner no matter what you are going through. So, is love enough in this case? No.
Sacrifice is the third ingredient that will make your relationship survive for long. You will need to sacrifice your time, money, and other things to make your relationship work. Even if you love her so much and you don’t have time for her, the relationship cannot survive. You need to see each other regularly to make your relationships work. Except, if you are on a long distance relationship. Even, if you are not with your partner, you will still need to spend time talking on the phone, chatting or sending emails.
From the submission above, is love not enough for a relationship to survive? I think I have been able to convince and not confuse you that Love is not enough for a relationship to survive. Lol. Go add the three ingredients above and you will love the outcome.
When love is not enough in a relationship quotes to help you
- Where love is concerned, too much is not even enough
- Love is not how much you say ‘I love you, but how much you can prove that it’s true
- If you’re giving your all to someone and it’s not enough, you’re giving it to the wrong person
- There comes a time in every relationship when you’ll realize that love is not enough
- Love is not enough. It must be the foundation, the cornerstone – but not the complete structure. It is much too pliable, too yielding – Quentin Crisp