You had no inkling it would happen again.
You thought you had found someone to love and hold forever
You put in your all to make the relationship work.
But alas, it happened again.
He/she broke the relationship again.
This is the third time it will be happening.
Should you stay and make up again as like before, or should you move on with your life?
It is called relationship cycling. In order words, an on and off relationship. Your hopes were high on the relationship, but suddenly it came crashing down.
On and off relationship means breaking up with your loved one and making up again. That is why it is also called relationship cycling. You keep going out and coming in. The truth is, on and off relationship is like playing a movie over and over again, but it does not change its end. Play it a hundred times, it will still end the same way.
For instance, you are in love with a lady who loves rich men. You are just an upcoming young man working hard to make a living. You gave your all to her, but she is still looking for more from men outside. She keeps breaking up and making up with you, all because she wants more, but doesn’t want to leave you either.
The stack reality is that you cannot continue to be off and on forever. Imagine the same cycle happening in your marriage. It will be absurd. The signs are everywhere now and if you must decide; you need to do it right now.
On and off relationship is toxic. The more you break up and makeup, the more your relationship deteriorate. You will soon lose the purpose for which you are together.
The thing is, after a breakup you need time to heal. Time to analyze the situation. Time to take stock and see what you can do to make a better decision in the future. But this is not so in an on and off relationships. There is no time to reassess. You jump back into the relationship. This is why you keep repeating the same mistake over and over again. Getting over your partner is the key to your healing. By the time you heal, you will be able to reassess your relationship, if you still love each other.
An on and off relationship means the two of you don’t know what you really want. You can’t be breaking up and making up if you really want your partner. You will fight to make the relationship work. You will not give up at the slightest provocation.
However, this does not mean that on and off relationship cannot work. Surprisingly, some couples have made it through it.
On and off relationship success stories
The question is, do on and off again relationships ever work out?
Sometimes they do, but not in all cases. For example, I read about the relationship between Kate Middleton and her husband Prince William when they were dating. They started their relationship in 2004. They broke up briefly in 2007 and ever since they have been married. Although, theirs was just off once and they came back again.
The truth is, if you and your partner are ready to change your attitude or ways, it can work. You can make it work if both of you are determined to stay together.
Multiple breakups – how to tell it’s final
When do you finally stop breaking up and making up?
If you or your partner refuses to change, there is nothing you can do other than to break up and move on with your life. So, where there are no changes in them – it is final, move on.
If you keep up forgiving the same mistake over and over again, it is time to finally end it. For instance, if your partner is a cheat, but he keeps asking for your forgiveness and you’ve done it a couple of times and he is not changing, it is time to finally break it and move on.
Whatever you cannot live with, don’t condone it. Off and on relationships are not healthy. Move on with someone you cannot live without.