It is very important to know the differences between love and infatuation because they look so much alike in the beginning. This will enable you to make healthy choices in relationships. Most times, when people say “‘I’m in love” right at the beginning of the relationship, they are infatuated. But we look at the differences, let’s attempt to define Love and infatuation.
Love is an in-depth feeling for someone. You love them despite their physical appearance, status in the society, education, etc.
Infatuation, on the other hand, is an intense feeling that engulfs within the first few hours or days of meeting someone. According to a research, the feeling can be compared to someone that has taken cocaine. The same part of the brain that is at work when you are infatuated with someone is the same that is in use when you take cocaine. That means you will feel high as if you are on love drug.
They look alike and you must be able to differentiate them after some time.
Below are 20 differences between love and infatuation.
1. Love lasts forever while infatuation is often short-lived
2. Love grows slowly while infatuation is intense and instant
3. Love is equal, infatuation is when you weigh the person on a scale
4. Love is selfless while infatuation focuses on meeting your needs
5. Love is being ready to accept any imperfection in the other person while infatuation is thinking there are no imperfections
6. Love is trying to know everything about your partner while infatuation is thinking you know everything already.
7. Love will wait while infatuation is impatient
8. Loves save energy, while infatuation spends energy
9. Loves grow from friendship while infatuation grows from a physical desire.
10. Love is to one person while infatuation could be multiple persons
11. Love has no conditions while infatuation has conditions
12. Love is soul driven while infatuation is mind driven
13. Love brings security while infatuation generates insecurity
14. Loves want the other person’s happiness no matter what, while infatuation is based on what the other person does for you.
15. Love creates understanding and trust while infatuation breeds jealousy
16. Love knows you can wait to marry while infatuation wants sex now
17. Love is devotion while infatuation is emotion
18. Love is stronger and more resilient while infatuation is not
19. Love is the willingness to take responsibility for your feelings while infatuation does not
20. Love wants deeper connection while infatuation wants physical affection
However, the major difference between love and infatuation is TIME. Infatuation can last from 6 months to a year while love lasts forever.
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