It is your birthday again!
The day that is supposed to be a happy day for you.
But it is not.
Because you are still single and each birthday reminds you of one thing:
Time is running out!
All your friends are engaged and some are even married
It’s not as if there were no men coming for you
It’s just because you have not met the one that meets all your expectations
It’s not as if you are asking for too much. Just for few things a man must possess.
But no one comes close to it yet.
And you are wondering: will I ever get a man that will meet all my expectations?
The thing is:
There are realistic and unrealistic expectations about men.
Realistic expectation such as the man must be trustworthy, hardworking, honest and caring.
There are many unrealistic expectations about men you can have, such as “the man must be wealthy” for instance.
The truth is:
Life is not always like that. We don’t always get all our expectations, especially when they are unrealistic.
God has different plans for us His children and until we calm down and discard our expectations for his will, we will always miss it.
I am sure you have lots of expectations about the man you want to marry. Because of that, you are throwing away responsible suitors who ask for your hands in marriage. It is time to wake up to reality. Time is not on your side.
Below, I have gathered 7 unrealistic expectations about men you need to discard if you want to marry a responsible man.
Let’s get started.
1. He must be your ticket to a better life
Some ladies hold the notion that the guy that will date them must be wealthy. A wealthy guy will make them happy. He must live in an apartment and must have a car, a good one. I hope this is not you!
Wealth does not define a man. Although you need money to enjoy your relationship, it is not the ultimate. You must not turn your man into your ATM where you can always make withdrawal whenever you need it.
A man should not be your ticket to a better life. If you are not educated, find a good skill that will fetch you money. If you are an educated lady, search for better jobs or businesses you can do to cater to your needs. Doing this will make you be self–sufficient and not dependent on your man. Believe me, he will respect you for it.
2. He must be your dictionary/encyclopedia
You want a man who will always have answers to all your problems. Most men are not counselors for God’s sake. He must know how to fix everything, including your broken tooth. Give me a break!
Learn to use your brain to think sometimes. If you have a sore in your mouth, your man is in trouble, he must look for ways to cure it when you know he is not a doctor. Your car suddenly stopped moving and the next person you call is your man. He must look for ways to fix it. You even packed the car right there and gave him the key to sort it out. What?
3. Unfettered access to the holiest place would make him stay
Many ladies desperate for relationships and marriage think giving men sex will make them stay and even propose. Well, I am here to burst your bubbles. It doesn’t work! Sex cannot tie a man down with you in a relationship. There are other things that can make a man propose and sex is not one.
Some even go to the extent of becoming a ‘baby mama’ to tie their man down to marry them. It doesn’t work! Go and ask them. There are many of them out there frustrated because the man is not giving them attention. Close your legs and preserve yourself for the right man. It pays!
4. He must be able to change at the snap of your fingers
I have seen ladies who opened their two eyes to go into wrong relationships because they feel they can change their men. Men are not projects you can change. This is why you need to open your eyes and choose wisely and not go “love is blind”.
The thing is, God made us individually wonderful with our characters, faults, and goodness. You cannot change your man to the person you have in mind. It wouldn’t work! It is either you accept him for who he is and have the peace of mind or you have no business being with him. Fact!
5. He must complete you
I don’t blame most ladies. It is the environment we grew in. Most people believe a lady is not complete until she is married. This has made several ladies be desperate for marriage even though they are successful in the live endeavor.
If you are not complete in and of yourself, no man can complete you. Looking for a man to complete you will make you look desperate. You will compromise on everything. You won’t have a say. You will be a ‘yes’ woman.
6. He must be ready to propose after sometime
This is a popular and common unrealistic expectations about men most lady hold. Once they are in a relationship with a man, and it is getting to a year with no words of a marriage coming up. They get agitated and worried that the man is not proposing.
The truth is, not every man that comes your way will propose. Relationships have different purposes and if you make the mistake of thinking all should lead to a proposal, you will be disappointed.
Some relationships are just for friendship, nothing more. You should be able to decipher between a relationship that is just for friendship and the one that can lead to marriage so you will not disturb yourself thinking about what may not happen.
7. He must be from your tribe/state/country
Most ladies cannot date nor marry any man outside their tribe/state/country. The man you want to marry must be from your place. You will stay long o, sister. Love knows no boundary, tribe, state or country. It can happen with whoever from wherever. All you need to do is to open your heart to love whoever God has appointed for you.
There you have it. The unrealistic expectations about men you must drop if you want to attract a responsible man to marry.
Now, close your eyes and imagine a responsible man showing up and coming into your life
Imagine having a blissful relationship that eventually leads to an engagement with marriage in the pipeline.
Now, open your eyes.
Is this possible?
Yes, very possible.
But there is one barrier holding it back from you. It is the unrealistic expectations about men you are still holding.
Discard them and the man you have been longing for will come into your life.
Make hay why the sun shines!